My Doula Care
The best way I can describe my doula care is to get you to imagine your closest female friend or relative. The person you feel the most comfortable with. Everyone has one – she’s the one you can rely on for anything, she’s been there to laugh with you through the highest points of your life and gives you a shoulder to ugly-cry into during the lowest. She has confidence in you even when you don’t, and she’s not afraid of giving you some tough love sometimes if you really need it.
Now imagine that person went through special training to not take anything personally. Let’s say a strong emotion overtakes you and you say something you normally wouldn’t. She wouldn’t bat an eye, she’d simply give you space and keep supporting you throughout your experience. This person has also learned some pretty incredible relaxation techniques. She is knowledgable about prenatal nutrition, newborn care, and breastfeeding. Acupressure, Thai massage, herbal medicine, yogatherapy, and Tai Chi are also amongst the tricks she’s got up her sleeve. Plus, she knows some wicked jokes.
My wife and I hired Kim for the birth of our daughter. To be perfectly honest, at that time I really had no idea what a doula did. I now know that the answer to that, at least in Kim’s case, is everything you could possibly want, and a lot of things you didn’t even know you needed, but most assuredly did. Kim is one of those very rare people who is impossible not to like. She is incredibly warm and genuine, and you can’t help but feel comfortable with her right from the moment you meet her.
Although we were also very impressed with Kim’s considerable knowledge and expertise, it was this comfort level that would prove to be utterly invaluable. The birth did not end up going the way that we had hoped, and I honestly don’t know how we would have gotten through it without her. She very calmly got my wife through the worst of it all, and was there to support the sobbing wreck that was me when our beautiful daughter was immediately whisked away to the NICU.
Whether your birth goes as you had hoped or not, if you should choose to hire Kim, I can very confidently say that when all is said and done you will not be able to imagine what it would have been like without her, or at the very least you would not want to. Kim will always hold a special place in our hearts, and we will always be thankful for her role in helping deliver little Olivia safely to us.
Birth on Your Terms
If you haven’t guessed yet, this hybrid between close friend and skilled professional is me! Granted, I will never be as close with you as your best friend, but that’s really for the best. One of the great things about a doula is, after all, her impartiality. No doubt your best friend loves you without reservation, but it’s natural for her to have her own biases. I don’t- I just want you to have the birth and postpartum care you want!
One of my many passions is learning about people. I want to know what makes you tick, and I have special exercises to do in our pre-natal appointments that allow us to bridge that gap really quickly. When we meet after your birth, I want you to be able to say “I did that my way and I wouldn’t have changed a thing”. I’ll make sure you’re supported every step of the way.
Who I Am
So now that you know a little about my doula approach, I should probably tell you a little more about who I am personally. I live in Nanaimo and love exploring this wonderful part of Vancouver Island with my dog and my husband. I also really love relaxing in my backyard hammock. I’m obsessed with: babies and birth, cramming as many plants into my garden as possible, cramming as much food into my mouth as possible, walking with no destination, attending the farmer’s market on the reg, eating perogies, and buying hats that I forget about after wearing them once. I love deeply and stand up for my beliefs fiercely. My laundry room is a mess, but my bedroom closet is impeccable. I believe in the power of handwritten notes and a hot cup of well-made tea. I also believe in the necessity of mistakes, imperfection, and laughter that tests one’s Kegel training regime. If you like my manifesto, maybe we should meet!